Skip/Dumpster!!! Get it off your chest!

I am sick and tired of the soon to be ex's games. I can't wait to be rid of him for good and then he can harass, intimidate, play mind games, abuse and berate somebody else! Although I don't know who in the heck would want him!! I hope his controlling, manipulating, and abusive behavior turns back on him trifold one day so he can see how it feels!! Once that divorce is final I am going to celebrate big!!!! A newfound freedom and a happy life. No more abuse. I can't wait!! 

I am so grateful to all of my POE friends and family for their friendship and support through this horrible ordeal. You all are an inspiration to me. 

Hope you will be free of this soon Cathy x

Our house sale has fell through - a week now and no one bothered to tell us. They still want our house but they have lost their sale so we have had to put ours back for sale. We signed the contracts last week and everything was done. I am pretty gutted.

Well, I was correct...insurance isn't going to pay an cent to us for the ATV and stuff being stollen the other night. Son gets to pay the $600 though he still owes on the ATV. I was pretty sure that many years ago Allstate sent out an admendment that they no longer would pay for "vandilsm" of personal property or civil unrest/riot of personal property. Just like many life insurance policies don't pay off in case of "war"...you have to protect yourself and your own home. It's sad because my son isn't gettin in full hours at work either. Many of the young married kids aren't these days. My sister in-law that just lost her husband, her oldest daughter an hubby worked together...they both got laid off at the same time..they have an one or two year old baby also. Unemployemnt will cover the house payments and takes it all...they have to scrounge for the rest also. One reason there is so much theft. But tis sad...my kids never see in getting ahead these days in their youth like they should be doing for when they get older also. I am proud to say that they do not so far... farm their kids out to an sister or brother so others can raise them as "Foster" kids and get paid for it though...this was how my daughter in-law was raised. She was the babysitter, her younger sister the housekeeper..of her older sister....but better then begin with the step-father I guess...whom got accused of trying to rape them. but whatever is required to get your kids raised for "free" these days I guess. One reason I try so hard to get things so the kids can live on their own later on.. and don't have to prostitute themelves out to whomever will help them. Rather I get that accomplished or not still remains to be seen perhaps. For girls its "important" I think. They are not as apt to be "abused" if the hubby knows they don't have to put up with them from day one. Sad.

Cathy...by the time you end up divorced, it's true, each of you will be so glad to "get it over" with...I've seen many an friend in divorce and the "ex" picking on them..from my own gal-friend whose "ex" took it upon himself to chase and harass her in her car trying to get home one night, with his car....to Illya's "ex" showing up at work drunk trying to pick an fight with her in the middle of Fred Meyers. It didn't scare them half as much as it embarassed them. Both these guys stopped their careers at work in ways doing such things. IIlya ended up having to leave that night to meet her "ex" in an resturant across the street to get him out of the store to not make an "scene"...we "covered" for her at work while she did this, still worried about what he might do to her elsewhere though. Domestic violence...well, an gal and two friends just got killed downtown in an resturarant from "domestic" violence not long ago. Kind of sad. The friends had nothing to do with the divorce...one of them hardly knew her...she was related to the other one.  My brothers "adopted" daughter at one time.....whose real father was an son...of the lady my father married, he never supported her either...(this kid's real father never married the mother) and step-mother took all dad owned from us kids at his death...she hates my brother..and my brother hates her, Sharon moved my brother out so Marie(pregnant) could move her kid's father in knowing my brother disliked the set up in general ...the kid put an restraining order on my brother...and she went into "Safeway" one day, and he was shopping there as he lived behind the store in some apartments...he said something like "Well, the bitch is here" and walked away ....she had the cops at his door before he got home to "arrest" him for harrassment...he said then...you see, I can't even have an life of my own because of them...in "peace". This involved us also, as we were asked to post bail for my brother to get him out of jail. I was angry then...but he paid me back as he said he would by the following Friday. All my friends know well what the step-mother did to us at dad's death....all over town. She walked away with "my parents" house, way before she ever moved into it...his car, his 30 year old pension, his social security, dad had completely renovated his house before his death. When I think of all the times I bought her stuff, took her places, never fought her begin there or showed any disrespect toward her...to go down with flowers to plant and in the course be told, "I think that's it...by the way, I think my kids and I can handle things from now on"...I just looked at her rather shocked, like what brought all this on...but I walked away and that was that...just two days prior, we had went down there because she had locked herself out of her house with an candle burning to rescue her. After my dad died, her oldest son walked away also, finding out whom he thought had been his father for years on end, wasn't. While I found suggestions that dad and her had an thing "going" way before mom ever died perhaps....so much for mother being cronically ill... heh? Now I know why it was so imparative my mother died before I could buy my nieghbors house in Rockwodd next door for my mother to move into...if indeed stpe-mother was dad's girlfriend at the time. Though I did agree at dad's death that she could not support herself without an lot of help and I guess I could of fought it then for the house, but I think it it would forever be on my mind to stope so low to do so. I'm trying to figure out why I make such an lousy relative, when all I ever do most the time is "give"..but people like this kind of make you think twice. It looks that way for the neighborhood also. We seem to be only good for what we could "give" some days.Esp when it came to the fencing around the yards, one one side we are twice now paying for it...and of course now the ATV situation.  After an while it kind of gets to you..when you struggle and have not been given much your life and had to earn it yourself....and by that I mean not off someone else such as the Government and its taxpayers also. But so goes. Dad is correct, you can't take it with you...no matter how much you might think you should..or would like to. Last time I heard from him on the "other side" he was unhappy..he was missing his teeth..I asked Betty,, because I didn't have anything to do with his burial, she insisted she could do it..she had him cremated...so no one could discover like I did they gave him two incompatible medications and killed him...anyway, if he had his "teeth" she said, No, last minute I decided maybe they could use them in someway for someone else, I said...well, he didn't like it, he came through an complained about it in one of my spiritual web sites...taking the person I was talking to completely by surprise...I remember that guy said, "Who are You?" as I had never mentioned my family on line back then like I do now. In fact we were talking about something completely different at the time...completely un-related to family in general.  Well, anyway, so much for getting all this off my chest I suppose. I try real hard to constantly forget about dealing with "relatives" most the time...because they drag me into things I'd just as soon not deal with to tell you the honest truth. Last time "dad" was bugging me I up and told him...you got an house of your own... you know..go to it please!Dad never liked Betty's kids, except her daughter he'd put up with her but the boys he felt they had never made or atempted to make anything decent of their lives.

Which house..the new one or the old one that the sale fell through on?...Sorry to hear this Stephanie, I know how much you have been wanting an decent house in an decent neighborhood. me also....as you can see, I'm not to "delighted" with life as it is going right now either.They say that Mercury was in retrograde...which means we were the first half of this month dealing with issues of the past...but supposedly we now can "move on" as it left that retrograde. Mercury rules Gemini...and I'm an Gemini born person...so maybe that's why this stealing event...as the house across the street had at one time been broken into and the house across from it also..she had her purse out in the car hauling groceries in at the time her theft took place...in her driveway. the house across the street they had an beisdes someone actually breakign down the door...an car out front with an wench on the bumper...they came back an took that during the night also...same thing...none ofus heard nro saw an thing, and there's an corner street light out there.  Perhaps its an old neighbor doing this..I know the neighbors around the corner says he knows who broke into his garage...or tried to..it was Julie Sidebottom's "boyfriend' later husband, and he said he'd went to school with him and recongized him on the spot. Kid came over yesterday...lives behind us, said his house, someone had broken into their garage also last year. Times are tough..but its really not an good excuse for "stealing"...and its against at least two of the 10 commandments...thou shalt not steal, thou shalt not covent thy neigbor's goods...(etc)...so goes. In one ear and out the other these days I guess. to tell the truth, I don't see where my nieghbors have anything worth "coventing" to tell you the truth....our "Reverand" apparently didn't sell his house either..it's up under an real estate company now.  At one time we could of had an great neighborhood, but people that moved in kept taking away from it to move on to what they thought was better and bigger and it left whatwas left behind in desparate need of improvement. Things cost so much these days in ways for improvement...but I tell you if I were to win an lot of money, even I'd go through and donate enough money to get things repaired, painted, barkdusted, and flowers planted allaround the houses on this corner...way they ought to be. Some of the people have tried, but the landscapers they got to do the yards, did them for an profit, not long term easy care on the people...as it should of been done.  Bark dusting alone makes an big difference in the looks of things. 

Thanks for telling me which house..maybe they will come around again on another loan...one never knows these days.  We were talking about the Reverand's house on the corner, the neighbor and I, we both agree, he has this raised rock planter out front and it needs to be done up in something more spectacular...then the bushes that are planted there some 30 years old now. Something "spikey" looking in an plant and brightly colored perhaps..kind of tropical look in the planter instead of evergreen "bushes" maybe?...he's asking top dollar for it right now, and yet in some ways he's got the money into it...just there is so much competition out there right now in the housing industry. The housing needs kept up..but they need that something "special" that makes an house stand out when it comes to resale value.

So....everyone.....tell me what you think makes an house stand out as something "special" amoung houses that are simliar in every other aspect..should I pose that as an question? Stephanie, what sold you on the house you just bought?