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Debbie Adams Posts: 2043 Joined: 8th Mar 2009 Location: USA | quotePosted at 04:15 on 11th May 2009 |
Jeannie Fetters Posts: 189 Joined: 8th Apr 2009 Location: USA | quotePosted at 06:49 on 11th May 2009 1.If they are polite and kind, to those around them. 2.They are a christian, or don't mind me talking about Jesus. 3.They are respectful to children and elderly people. 4.They don't cuss(curse), I can handle some, alot of cussing spoken & I will say something. 5. I like it when they don't criticize Jesus. 6. They take the time to listen to me, as I in return try to listen to them as well. 7. When we share the same or most of the same hobbies and things we do. 8. They don't look down on me cause I have a disability, or because I'm poor. 9.In a good friend, I believe in total honesty. 10. They have a positive attitude atleast 80% of the time.They don't complain, and bicker all the time. A friend to me, is one that will stick there neck out for you, and take the time to listen to you when you are having a rotten day. A friend to me is like this : If your friend has a flat tire, on a back dirt road, at 12:00 midnight, and they can't seem to just get it fixed by themselves, so they call on you to come and help them. You are exhausted from a long day of dealing with kids, your job, and you have just crawled into bed., and here you are. You decide they are your best friend, you debate for several minutes, do I go, or do I give some excuse, or wake your partner to help you think of an excuse to "not" go. To me a true loyal best friend. Would get dressed and go to help the friend in need. And all of you should go and help out, and let the kids sleep while all of this is going on. My Point, a friend should help their friends no matter what the situation.Unless its's illegal, or causes somone else pain. Because next time it might be you that has the flat, and you need to call your friend. And you pray they don't back out, or come up with an excuse. lols Jeannie |
Stephanie Jackson Posts: 3911 Joined: 13th Apr 2008 Location: UK | quotePosted at 07:00 on 11th May 2009 Strange really - I can't answer that. I have friends of all ages, gender, personality, background. I have friends who are living on benefits and who struggle to "make ends meet" and then friends who own mansions who work for the Government. Some are quiet and are good listeners, some never stop talking, some are outgoing and love to party, others are too shy and stay at home. Some are single, some are married, some have families. Some of them I really didn't like when I met them and they have later become great friends. Some of them I knew were going to be good friends as soon as I met them. Others I have thought were good friends have turned out not to be! I have some friends I have known since I was born, some from school, some from college, work, met through ex's, holidays, the boys school and of course here on POE. So probably with the experience of age I have an open mind and I really believe in fate and think that friendships are meant to be for a reason. |
Rod Burkey Posts: 554 Joined: 2nd Sep 2008 Location: UK | quotePosted at 09:46 on 11th May 2009 It's almost like a chemical reaction with me. I tend to make snap judgements about the people I meet which is perhaps not really fair. On the other hand, being a member of two clubs and also attending a 30 week Photoshop Course has brought me into regular contact with a diverse cross section of people and I really enjoy mixing with those who perhaps after an intitial meeting I might not really have got to know and like. My friends are all different and I can't really lay down any hard & fast reasons for getting on with people. It just happens. |
Lyn Brant Posts: 105 Joined: 23rd Apr 2009 Location: UK | quotePosted at 11:18 on 11th May 2009 No specifications at all, I click with a varied amount of people from diverse backgrounds and beliefs, I know straight away if I can be myself with certain people and that’s the key to me, if I can be myself warts and all then a great friendship is possible. I enjoy down to earth, honest people who are not afraid to tell me when I make a mistake but will stand by me and think no less of me for that mistake. |
Debbie Adams Posts: 2043 Joined: 8th Mar 2009 Location: USA | quotePosted at 13:43 on 11th May 2009 Most of the time I have pertty good first inpression's on ppl but I like for someone to be Honest and not fake but I can usally get along with most ppl. |
Diana Sinclair Posts: 10119 Joined: 3rd Apr 2008 Location: USA | quotePosted at 14:15 on 11th May 2009 On 11th May 2009 07:00, Stephanie Jackson wrote:
I am with you on this one Steph. I can't really define what makes a friendship click and what doesn't. It's chemistry on some level I suppose. But then I have met people who I initally thought I would hit it off with but after a short time of knowing them it became clear that we were on different paths and that threw the friendship right off course. Conversley, I've met people who I "disliked" almost on sight but despite a rocky start we quickly became good friends! Edited by: Diana Sinclair at:11th May 2009 21:18 |
Gives Up! ' Posts: 1934 Joined: 30th Apr 2005 Location: UK | quotePosted at 20:56 on 11th May 2009 They have to have a sense of humour to match mine, otherwise, they won't understand me and think I'm being nasty, or something equally unpleasant! LOL! |
Krissy Posts: 15430 Joined: 8th Jul 2008 Location: USA | quotePosted at 21:02 on 11th May 2009 They have to get me!! I have a strange sense of humor and if anyone can laugh with me..and at me...then it's all good!! Sometime you just meet someone and you feel like you've known forever and it feels like you picked up where you left off. And it's also those tiny things in common that makes it special too. |
Shirley K. Lawson Posts: 2310 Joined: 17th Jul 2008 Location: USA | quotePosted at 22:02 on 11th May 2009 I would say I "sense" someone's intelligience for the most part. It makes them more interesing people. I tend to learn form them more readily then others. But there are other attributes also that influence things, as to manners, humanitarian ideals, the "get up and go" also. I think some people just click because the timing is right also. We are here bascially for the communication exchange and to resolve issues in our lives and others help us in doing that as much as we do ourselves. I know one gal that has this "get and go" energy about her, you can' t help but associate with it, but then it goes over into being "pushy" and ego based.... and you can hardly wait to get away from her. Nice to say hello to.. and walk away. Right time... at the right place perhaps. According to my book on ancient medicine, we pick out people that are just like us, and yet have acquired already an talent that we need...that is what brings us together, and it also blames "Cancer" on supressing the "wants" of another. It says it saps "life energy" for an person to always be the giver and never an taker in due "balance". Sometimes people readily see how much another takes from them, but how they never really give back. I think the most dramatic case I ever heard though was an reknown "psychic" out here in the area I was reviewing, and she was telling me about her near-death experience and how her boyfriend,or maybe he was her husband at the time, nearly drowned her, while him and friend were in the boat "talking" as she was water skiing, completely ignoring what was going on behind them out on the water...as she'd went down and they were draggin gher in the water around the Lake with her foot caught, never noticing her. She said it was her kind of "wake up" call that he thought more about himself and his life..then "thier" life...and what was going on in it. I think we all have an bit of that these days any more, because our lifestyles are that way any more in general, but it does go to show, where we are headed, an society melt-down of conflict in interest...or an society one sided in relationships while they do last. I think at times I'm already there people. In more then just one way also with many people. Now, I have to go an read an book about "curves" and their diet plan. Give it an chance, and hope it doesn't kill me in the process. Technically one week there now, and not lost an pound, (haven't gained though either) only difference I can tell is my arm is feeling better with the excerise, and the back of legs hurt, and sometimes feel weaker. then when I started, until I get up and get going for the day...started the daily walking again, and I think it does as much good for me as the excerises. but the excerises has the top half of me doing stretches...not just my legs only, I got good looking legs, hardly no fat on them, it's my stomach that's bothering me in size, I look conitnually "pregnant" for some reason. It would be so nice to be healthy and not have this issue always there hanging around daily...where it can never leave my mind for an minute. I wish I could find the right ingreidants to make things "click" in getting healthierand smaller in size. I at times "feel" that way, that I'm not clicking into the right people/routine sometimes. |