I really need my friends right now

Hi everyone,

I missed over a day and a half because I was with my parents in Pennsylvania. I went up to visit on Saturday morning. All was okay when I got there. We had a nice lunch and my dad sat at the table for quite awhile talking with me about his family and such. We went back to his room and my mom and I played a game. Dad was just sitting in his chair. He had been in a good mood. But then he snapped! He got up and went into the bathroom, came out and walked right out the door. Mom and I were concerned. We found that he started waling down the drive alone but the cornfield got in the way and my mom sent me after him. So I took the dog with me and caught up to him and told him we were playing follow the leader jokingly. If I had of told him we came to check up on him I know he would have been upset. The drive is about 40 acres long. Well he was all ready extremely angry and told me off. Talked about ending his life. He came back up the drive and could not find his way back inside. My brother tried to help. When he came in he let me and my mom have it. He was so angry I thought something bad might happen. I got my brother to come in. Long story in between but he called my brother a liar right up in his face. I had to call for an ambulance. The state police came. He even got up in the cops face. He was so mad with all of us. At the hospital he threatened about killing my brother. His neurologist did not want him to be sent home without seeing a pyschiatrist. They sent him home anyway. Now my brother is saying that if there is one more incident like this that he will have my dad put in jail or in a nursing home. My poor mom is beside herself. I am afraid she will end up with a nervous breakdown.

My dad is going into what's called "sundowning" from the Parkinson's Disease in the afternoons and early evening. Their demeanor changes drastically where they become very agitated and angry and lash out but cannot control their behavior. They don't even realize it is happening.

My heart goes out to all three of them. I feel as if I am in a twilight zone nightmare. I just need some support and love from my POE family to get me through this. I have to go back on Tuesday evening through Wednesday evening. 

I am so sorry to hear about this situation Catherine.

Certainly Jail is NOT an option, but a nursing home or hospitalization may have to happen.

What a pity that this disease can alter your poor dad's personality, I do so hope that it can be brought under control with medication.

Please know that we are here for you. You will be in our thoughts and our prayers, and we always have a listening ear. Make this thread a place you can unload, we will be listening.

Cathy, I'm so sorry about what's going on with your Dad.  I echo everything Sue said - she has such a sweet and compassionate way of phrasing things, doesn't she? Well said, Sue.

You and yours will be in my thoughts and prayers too.  And yes, do discuss whatever you feel like sharing here.  While we may not be able to "fix" any of this for you, we can be here to listen to whatever you need to unload.  From what I know about you from reading your postings, you have a great way of trying to find the silver lining, although that can be exhausting.  Your "family" at POE is here for you, to help you in our own small way, to cope.  God bless.

Cathy, during my volunteer work with a community transport co. I saw this with some of the clients of a day care group. It is very easy to cast blame on these poor souls, but it is not their fault as I am sure you understand. Love and patience is required and I wish you the strength to cope with this sad situation.

As you know, I am not a religeous bloke, but I am sure that the prayers of the good folk here will help you to get through.

Know that you and yours are in my thoughts.

Wolf..... Pete.

 Have doctors check his medications if he has any, if they got him on Prozac and some of the anti-depressant's they might be working against each other, I thought I just read they found an cure for Parkinson's disease. Good luck, I well understand what your going through...as they say, been there.. done that. When the arteries in my mother's hand use to collapse on her, they would like have an burning feeling.. an she'd call me  up at odd hours unmercilously crying and telling me that "dad' was burning her. I'd go to the doctor and tell him...do something about it Mr. that's what your paid for! Don't go to the little plain gernal doctrs, they have no idea what to do, go to the clinics that specialize in treating that particular ailment. Stem cell research is still exploratory, bu tas long as it is the surgery is "free"...and they are doing wonder things with it these days, taking out dead cells and replacing them and givine new life to brain tumor patients, Massive heart attck victims, and diseases that waste the body cells.Go for it. It takes awhile for the cells to be taken from the top of the thing and grown in labs up at "harvard" in Boston, before they can replant them in the patient, so don't delay. You could be giving him back an normal life for soem years to come. ((((Hugggs))))...you will indeed need them. I have already been saved from what caused her death.. it's genetic. aparently in the family.

My troll is here, I just called his blasted "number" in another web site...sorry for the mis-spells. He works real hard making me look imcompentant, stops me from getting into web sites and what not also, because that's what he is...an complete "Troll" in every sense of the word.  I see this time he/she took on James Berkland's name in  the other web site to use. Gesh!!!