Always Honest or Okay to Hold Back?

Do you think couples should always be open and honest with each other, or are there things that it is okay to hold back? Why or why not?

It is better to be completely honest with each other I think, although sometimes people hold back because they don't want to hurt the other persons'  feelings; or to avoid causing worry or concern to the other.

Unfortunately, this has the opposite effect and can cause more worry, concern, and anguish.

My conclusion is therefore; that I can understand both points of view, but feel happier with complete honesty. does that all make sense? I would be interested to hear what other people have to say on this?

It's a hard one to answer. Complete honesty between two people with regards to anything that affects their relationship together, yes. But there are times when I think NOT telling something is better. For example, if I am in a relationship with a man and his brother makes a pass at me, I will probably not say anything to my guy about it. Of course, his brother might have trouble coming up with a reason why he's walking funny all of a sudden, but I see no reason to create a riff between brothers. I can handle myself in that situation and the likely hood is that once I have finished with him, the brother will never do it again!

I think it depends on what kinds of things we are talking about here.

I would word whatever it was in a good way! I think Diana's example is a good one - if anyone came on to me I would deal with it myself and tell them to get lost and no way etc etc. If I told Terry I would end up with a husband in prison for GBH!

LOL Stephanie! and elloooooo