Alzheimer Care or Con?

I see a lot of TERRIBLE homes! really awful, basic care seems to be forgotten, nobody sems to know anything about the residents, I could write a book about the horrors i've seen in some places. We do report a lot of it, but i'm sure nothing ever gets done. It seems to be very good money if you own a home, and they can look very nice and posh from the outside and the reception, they tend to be the bad ones though, everything else is done on the cheap. I've been to homes where 1 member of staff is trying to look after loads of residents through the night, its crazy.

I've found some of the council run homes to be the best to be honest, they often don't look as nice, but the care is much better.

Saying all that, i probably only see the bad places, as the good ones don't need us as often!

Yes, Lyn, that took an incredible amount of guts to stand up against what can only be referred to as "crime" at great personal cost.  That was very selfless and I must say that I admire you greatly for what you did.

Thanks to everybody again, but just to answer a 'Roses' question, yes it seems he is going to be taken out of the 'care home' to be looked after at home with a 'carer' going in . I don't know what difference that will make but at least he will be fed, kept clean, wear his own clothes, have his hair washed, a regular bath, nails cleaned etc.

So what can we do about this disgusting behaviour and the degradation of our loved ones, any idea's? Perhaps I will write a really hard hitting book about true life experiences, with those who have seen, experienced the abuse first hand contributing their own record of events. Any idea's for an appropriate title? We could throw this open to the world, with all profits going to setting up a chain of strictly monitored specialist care homes with vigourous random checks on facilities and staff! As well as that we need to 'Lobby Government' - somehow this cannot be allowed to continue.

Maybe there are ways to deal with it from within the existing facilities, but we need to act thats for sure!

If anybody has a story to tell, without giving personal details like names addresses etc (so long as they could be referred to in the event of an inquiry) then I am prepared to start logging the details with a possible view to a book, and Government intervention. Any other ideas?  

Ron, sorry to hear that sad news. My dad has alzheimers and parkinsons. I know the anguish of the disease. I also know what it is like in nursing homes. Unfortunately, it has been that way for a long time here in the states. I used to work in the hospitals and nursing homes. We have decided to keep my dad at home and get in home care unless he becomes violent and we are unable to help him. Thank goodness with the medications he is stable at the moment. 

My heart goes out to you and your family for all you are going through. Will keep you all in prayer. 

Hi catherine, sorry to hear about your dad..

It is scary how common it is.. and how many people have horror stories about homes, I do hope it does get sorted one day... It will take along time.

Thanks Lyn, so might I suggest that when you feel able you start documenting your story. It doesn't have to be an immediate response, it is far more important to me that you are transparent and not seen to be looking for revenge for the trauma that you went through.

Remember, if you do tell me anything it will need to be stored on my PC, or a disk/cd of some sort until such time as I am able to bring something together that gives a true picture of what the problems are. Hopefully, others will soon get to hear about what we propose, and send their account of the abuse inflicted upon their loved one (s) also!

For my part I give you a simple guarantee - I will not publish anything, or even send it to a third party for publishing consideration without contacting each and every person who contributed. At that stage we can also work out the finer points.

Any other idea's?

Remember! Don't be afraid to speak up for those who can't speak for themselves!